Friday, June 17, 2016

{ Watching Over Us}

Hey Friends!

I thought I better get on and give some updates on what has been going on the last couple weeks! we have had a lot of excitement and exciting news!! when I was on here last I was explaining about my shots and guess what! those are all done! I have completed all my meds, shots, trigger shot, and all!! wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be but very overwhelming and lots to remember, yes it did stress me out a bit but only because I didn't want to mess anything up!

So I went in for my morning appointments two in a row in Murray, Utah...drove there and had ultrasounds done, and blood work, the nurse practitioner said I was ready, basically my body responded really well to the shots and things were moving fast! which was good news! I got a call after my Tuesday appointment from my nurse Chelsee who explained to me to stop the shots and get ready to do my trigger shot! and they cancelled my Wednesday appointment! Retrieval was scheduled for Thursday! I was freakin out, not only nervous and scared but emotionally excited!

Trev and I showed up for retrieval and his dad came along to help drive home where Trev was working graves the night before so we didn't think it would be good for him to drive home sleepy and I wasn't allowed...we both got called back by the anesthetic guy who was seriously awesome!! didn't even feel him put the needle in me and then I was out!! I was back there for about 45 minutes, and they took me to the recovery room and brought Trev back, and I was saying some funny things! ha! I get a little weird after anesthetic! 13 EGGS RETRIEVED! we headed home and that's when princess days started! sit on my couch and rest! we got a call to let us know that 6 out of 13 eggs made it and are growing strong! SO HAPPY!! I seriously got off the phone and bawled.
 
As some of you that know Trev and I, we have been through a rough time trying to have a family...we never got happy or positive news, it was always heartbreaking. After 7 failed IUI's, HSG Procedure, Endometrosis Procedure where they found that my left ovary had moved back to my pelvic bone and had to be moved back...{little odd!}, Blood Work after Blood Work, Money down the drain, and heartbreak after heartbreak, it really exhausted Trev and I as husband and wife...this has caused a lot of heartbreak, feeling like a failure, and lots of tears in our home. So happy news lately is honestly the best news we could get and really want! we know the Big man above has watched over us through this journey along with our amazing grandparents in heaven that we miss everyday, we know they have stood beside Heavenly Father and watched over us also!
 
Transfer Day was set for 5 days after our retrieval, we were scheduled on May 19th for retrieval and May 24th for transfer! we got the news all 6 were still going strong! we ended up deciding and had decided along time ago that we wanted to transfer 2 embryos and that is what we did! we also got some frosties! two to freeze. the others weren't growing fast enough and didn't make it. Trev and I are so overwhelmed with joy and so excited! we cannot wait for the news and to see how the journey will end! we have prayed our little hearts out and we're so thankful each day for the power of prayer!! Thanks friend for following along and learning more about our journey! XOXO!

 
Here are some fun pictures that we have taken throughout the process!












 
More Updates to come soon!:)
 

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

{ Get Your Tissues Ready }

I wanted to share this video, its full of emotions, happiness, sadness, but an amazing story! This couple reminds me so much of how Trev and I have felt...there were so many times I felt lost, and broken. This girl is completly right, we woman feel that we are put on this earth to be mothers, so when there is a problem its heartbreaking. Truly blessed for other resources in life to be able to have a sweet angel brought into couples homes when we struggle!
 
Click Link Below and Enjoy
XO
 

!!Trev!!

I needed to write about Trev! we celebrated Trev's birthday on May 6th! this guy! where do I even begin! I am so thankful for him in my life...we have a lot of ups and a lot of downs but our feelings for one another have never changed. We have struggled at times, but it has brought us closer than we have ever been! Marriage isn't the easiest thing in life, its hard, its stressful, life is hard and stressful! but through it all we have never doubted our love for eachother! I fell in love with Trev the day I met him! he seriously made me laugh so much and that is all I wanted was someone to love and that loved me back, that made me happy and always made me smile. I struggled before Trev I went through a hard break up that literally knocked me on the ground, I felt as if I never wanted to fall in love, I never wanted to be back in that position of feeling not worth anything...I took a break for a year and figured out myself and what I wanted, I didn't want to date, I just wanted to have fun, but the first time I met Trev I literally had this feeling inside of happiness and that fear was totally washed away! I was always so excited to see him and be able to spend as much time as I could with him!
 
Trev has seriously been a rockstar through this whole invitro process...he has stood beside me to remind me that I am doing so good, and that I still look beautiful when I don't feel so great. I am so thankful for this man, I can't even tell you how much I love him because it is more than I can even explain! I love you babe! Happy 33 years!! Lets make more memories through 33 more years of your life!

 
 
 
 

{ IVF Updates! }

I promised that I would get on tonight and give some updates! things have been so busy!! and crazy!! I have been so sick and so tired! So I really have had no ambition to do anything but sit in the bathroom on the toilet or head in the toilet or just lay in my bed and sleep! working full time, and straight home has been hard! do I sound like a baby? well I kind of have a right to be one! :)
 
So I started injection shots on April 25th, one a day in the morning and I stopped birth control on May 2nd! I was seriously having a party to be able to stop birth control! it made me crazzzzy! Things have been going pretty good! my stomach of course has been feeling really sore! I feel like my tummy is a punching bag and I got the crap beat out of me!
 
I started 3 shots this week, 2 in the morning, one at night...Lupron, Gonal in the morning, and Menopur at night. I have felt really different since starting these. Appetite has been really weird, stomach sore, headaches all day, sick to my stomach {diarrhea} TMI? :( but this is all worth it for our little miracle! we are getting so excited and nervous!!
 
Just a few things that I have been craving! weirdest thing ever! but I guess hormones can do that to you!
 
{Pop Tarts}
{Cereal}
{Strawberries}
{Mashed Potatoes}
{Starbursts}
 
Healthy right!!? Not! so far things have been going really good! and we are getting closer to being done! I do shots till the 18th, we have an appointment this Saturday in Pleasant Grove, Utah at 830 am, and three in a row next week, Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday all in the morning for ultrasounds and blood work to see how my follicle eggs are coming along! we had an appointment last week and I had a total of 4, they say I will have up to 15-20 follicles by the time we are done with shots! so crazy!! and exciting! Here are a few updates and pictures of the amazing and exciting journey!

Team Baby Larsen!




 
 
 
 
 

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

{Infertility Etiquette}


National Infertility Week April 19th-25th

Found this on the internet and wanted to share its worded perfectly!


Infertility Etiquette

Chances are, you know someone who is struggling with infertility. More than seven million people of childbearing age in the United States experience infertility. Yet, as a society, we are woefully uninformed about how to best provide emotional support for our loved ones during this painful time.

Infertility is, indeed, a very painful struggle. The pain is similar to the grief over losing a loved one, but it is unique because it is a recurring grief. Infertile people grieve the loss of the baby that they may never know. They grieve the loss of that baby who would have had mommy's nose and daddy's eyes. But, each month, there is the hope that maybe that baby will be conceived after all. No matter how hard they try to prepare themselves for bad news, they still hope that this month will be different. Then, the bad news comes again, and the grief washes over the infertile couple anew. This process happens month after month, year after year. It is like having a deep cut that keeps getting opened right when it starts to heal.

As the couple moves into infertility treatments, the pain increases while the bank account depletes. The tests are invasive and embarrassing to both parties, and you feel like the doctor has taken over your bedroom. And for all of this discomfort, you pay a lot of money.

A couple will eventually resolve the infertility problem in one of three ways:

They will eventually conceive a baby.They will stop the infertility treatments and choose to live without children.They will find an alternative way to parent, such as by adopting a child or becoming a foster parent.

Reaching a resolution can take years, so your infertile loved ones need your emotional support during this journey. Most people don't know what to say, so they wind up saying the wrong thing, which only makes the journey so much harder for their loved ones. Knowing what not to say is half of the battle to providing support.

Don't Tell Them to Relax

Everyone knows someone who had trouble conceiving but then finally became pregnant once she "relaxed." Couples who are able to conceive after a few months of "relaxing" are not infertile. By definition, a couple is not diagnosed as "infertile" until they have tried unsuccessfully to become pregnant for a full year. In fact, most infertility specialists will not treat a couple for infertility until they have tried to become pregnant for a year. This year weeds out the people who aren't infertile but just need to "relax." Those that remain are truly infertile.

Comments such as "just relax" or "try going on a cruise" create even more stress for the infertile couple, particularly the woman. The woman feels like she is doing something wrong when, in fact, there is a good chance that there is a physical problem preventing her from becoming pregnant.

These comments can also reach the point of absurdity. As a couple, my husband and I underwent two surgeries, numerous inseminations, hormone treatments, and four years of poking and prodding by doctors. Yet, people still continued to say things like, "If you just relaxed on a cruise . . ." Infertility is a diagnosable medical problem that must be treated by a doctor, and even with treatment, many couples will NEVER successfully conceive a child. Relaxation itself does not cure medical infertility.

Don't Minimize the Problem

Failure to conceive a baby is a very painful journey. Infertile couples are surrounded by families with children. These couples watch their friends give birth to two or three children, and they watch those children grow while the couple goes home to the silence of an empty house. These couples see all of the joy that a child brings into someone's life, and they feel the emptiness of not being able to experience the same joy.

Comments like, "Just enjoy being able to sleep late . . . .travel . . etc.," do not offer comfort. Instead, these comments make infertile people feel like you are minimizing their pain. You wouldn't tell somebody whose parent just died to be thankful that he no longer has to buy Father's Day or Mother's Day cards. Losing that one obligation doesn't even begin to compensate for the incredible loss of losing a parent. In the same vein, being able to sleep late or travel does not provide comfort to somebody who desperately wants a child.

Don't Say There Are Worse Things That Could Happen

Along the same lines, don't tell your friend that there are worse things that she could be going through. Who is the final authority on what is the "worst" thing that could happen to someone? Is it going through a divorce? Watching a loved one die? Getting raped? Losing a job?

Different people react to different life experiences in different ways. To someone who has trained his whole life for the Olympics, the "worst" thing might be experiencing an injury the week before the event. To someone who has walked away from her career to become a stay-at-home wife for 40 years, watching her husband leave her for a younger woman might be the "worst" thing. And, to a woman whose sole goal in life has been to love and nurture a child, infertility may indeed be the "worst" thing that could happen.

People wouldn't dream of telling someone whose parent just died, "It could be worse: both of your parents could be dead." Such a comment would be considered cruel rather than comforting. In the same vein, don't tell your friend that she could be going through worse things than infertility.

Don't Say They Aren't Meant to Be Parents

One of the cruelest things anyone ever said to me is, "Maybe God doesn't intend for you to be a mother." How incredibly insensitive to imply that I would be such a bad mother that God felt the need to divinely sterilize me. If God were in the business of divinely sterilizing women, don't you think he would prevent the pregnancies that end in abortions? Or wouldn't he sterilize the women who wind up neglecting and abusing their children? Even if you aren't religious, the "maybe it's not meant to be" comments are not comforting. Infertility is a medical condition, not a punishment from God or Mother Nature.

Don't Ask Why They Aren't Trying IVF

In vitro fertilization (IVF) is a method in which the woman harvests multiple eggs, which are then combined with the man's sperm in a petri dish. This is a method that can produce multiple births. People frequently ask, "Why don't you just try IVF?" in the same casual tone they would use to ask, "Why don't you try shopping at another store?"

Don't Be Crude

It is appalling that I even have to include this paragraph, but some of you need to hear this-Don't make crude jokes about your friend's vulnerable position. Crude comments like "I'll donate the sperm" or "Make sure the doctor uses your sperm for the insemination" are not funny, and they only irritate your friends.

Don't Complain About Your Pregnancy

This message is for pregnant women-Just being around you is painful for your infertile friends. Seeing your belly grow is a constant reminder of what your infertile friend cannot have. Unless an infertile women plans to spend her life in a cave, she has to find a way to interact with pregnant women. However, there are things you can do as her friend to make it easier.

The number one rule is DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR PREGNANCY. I understand from my friends that, when you are pregnant, your hormones are going crazy and you experience a lot of discomfort, such as queasiness, stretch marks, and fatigue. You have every right to vent about the discomforts to any one else in your life, but don't put your infertile friend in the position of comforting you.

Your infertile friend would give anything to experience the discomforts you are enduring because those discomforts come from a baby growing inside of you. When I heard a pregnant woman complain about morning sickness, I would think, "I'd gladly throw up for nine straight months if it meant I could have a baby." When a pregnant woman would complain about her weight gain, I would think, "I would cut off my arm if I could be in your shoes."

I managed to go to baby showers and hospitals to welcome my friends' new babies, but it was hard. Without exception, it was hard. Stay sensitive to your infertile friend's emotions, and give her the leeway that she needs to be happy for you while she cries for herself. If she can't bring herself to hold your new baby, give her time. She isn't rejecting you or your new baby; she is just trying to work her way through her pain to show sincere joy for you. The fact that she is willing to endure such pain in order to celebrate your new baby with you speaks volumes about how much your friendship means to her.

Don't Treat Them Like They Are Ignorant

For some reason, some people seem to think that infertility causes a person to become unrealistic about the responsibilities of parenthood. I don't follow the logic, but several people told me that I wouldn't ache for a baby so much if I appreciated how much responsibility was involved in parenting.

Let's face it-no one can fully appreciate the responsibilities involved in parenting until they are, themselves, parents. That is true whether you successfully conceived after one month or after 10 years. The length of time you spend waiting for that baby does not factor in to your appreciation of responsibility. If anything, people who have been trying to become pregnant longer have had more time to think about those responsibilities. They have also probably been around lots of babies as their friends started their families.

Perhaps part of what fuels this perception is that infertile couples have a longer time to "dream" about what being a parent will be like. Like every other couple, we have our fantasies-my child will sleep through the night, would never have a tantrum in public, and will always eat his vegetables. Let us have our fantasies. Those fantasies are some of the few parent-to-be perks that we have-let us have them. You can give us your knowing looks when we discover the truth later.

Don't Gossip About Your Friend's Condition

Infertility treatments are very private and embarrassing, which is why many couples choose to undergo these treatments in secret. Men especially are very sensitive to letting people know about infertility testing, such as sperm counts. Gossiping about infertility is not usually done in a malicious manner. The gossipers are usually well-meaning people who are only trying to find out more about infertility so they can help their loved ones.

Regardless of why you are sharing this information with someone else, it hurts and embarrasses your friend to find out that Madge the bank teller knows what your husband's sperm count is and when your next period is expected. Infertility is something that should be kept as private as your friend wants to keep it. Respect your friend's privacy, and don't share any information that your friend hasn't authorized.

Don't Push Adoption (Yet)

Adoption is a wonderful way for infertile people to become parents. (As an adoptive parent, I can fully vouch for this!!) However, the couple needs to work through many issues before they will be ready to make an adoption decision. Before they can make the decision to love a "stranger's baby," they must first grieve the loss of that baby with Daddy's eyes and Mommy's nose. Adoption social workers recognize the importance of the grieving process. When my husband and I went for our initial adoption interview, we expected the first question to be, "Why do you want to adopt a baby?" Instead, the question was, "Have you grieved the loss of your biological child yet?" Our social worker emphasized how important it is to shut one door before you open another.

You do, indeed, need to grieve this loss before you are ready to start the adoption process. The adoption process is very long and expensive, and it is not an easy road. So, the couple needs to be very sure that they can let go of the hope of a biological child and that they can love an adopted baby. This takes time, and some couples are never able to reach this point. If your friend cannot love a baby that isn't her "own," then adoption isn't the right decision for her, and it is certainly not what is best for the baby.

Mentioning adoption in passing can be a comfort to some couples. (The only words that ever offered me comfort were from my sister, who said, "Whether through pregnancy or adoption, you will be a mother one day.") However, "pushing" the issue can frustrate your friend. So, mention the idea in passing if it seems appropriate, and then drop it. When your friend is ready to talk about adoption, she will raise the issue herself.

So, what can you say to your infertile friends? Unless you say "I am giving you this baby," there is nothing you can say that will erase their pain. So, take that pressure off of yourself. It isn't your job to erase their pain, but there is a lot you can do to lessen the load. Here are a few ideas.

Let Them Know That You Care

The best thing you can do is let your infertile friends know that you care. Send them cards. Let them cry on your shoulder. If they are religious, let them know you are praying for them. Offer the same support you would offer a friend who has lost a loved one. Just knowing they can count on you to be there for them lightens the load and lets them know that they aren't going through this alone.

Remember Them on Mother's Day

With all of the activity on Mother's Day, people tend to forget about women who cannot become mothers. Mother's Day is an incredibly painful time for infertile women. You cannot get away from it-There are ads on the TV, posters at the stores, church sermons devoted to celebrating motherhood, and all of the plans for celebrating with your own mother and mother-in-law.

Mother's Day is an important celebration and one that I relish now that I am a mother. However, it was very painful while I was waiting for my baby. Remember your infertile friends on Mother's Day, and send them a card to let them know you are thinking of them. They will appreciate knowing that you haven't "forgotten" them.

Support Their Decision to Stop Treatments

No couple can endure infertility treatments forever. At some point, they will stop. This is an agonizing decision to make, and it involves even more grief. Even if the couple chooses to adopt a baby, they must still first grieve the loss of that baby who would have had mommy's nose and daddy's eyes.

Once the couple has made the decision to stop treatments, support their decision. Don't encourage them to try again, and don't discourage them from adopting, if that is their choice. Once the couple has reached resolution (whether to live without children, adopt a child, or become foster parents), they can finally put that chapter of their lives behind them. Don't try to open that chapter again.

And We're Off!

We are on our final and last journey to bring baby Larsen into the world! We hope and pray!! Invitro here we come! I have been on a couple weeks worth of birth control to regulate my periods and can I just say it has been hell...they put me on a brand that has made me feel sooo lousy, tired, eat, headaches, body feeling kind of weird, and did I say tired?! I could go to bed at 6 and be just fine. I called the Dr today to talk to my nurse to see if this is normal and she said it was, they just don't want me to have blurred vision. So I am sorry I haven't done a blog for awhile! I have been so sick lately that all I have even cared about was my bed, then to work, then home, then my couch, then my bed again!

We cannot wait to get through this journey and hope for the best! Trev and I are praying for a healthy baby and can't wait to see what Invitro will bring!

The Larsen home has been pretty quiet lately not really much going on except starting this process and Trev got a new job at Utah State University, so we have been really excited!

We met with our plan of care nurse the other day and implantation is scheduled for 5/25/2016 that's what the plans are! Go Team Baby Larsen! we couldn't do this without our friends and family support so we want to thank all of you for your thoughts and prayers! Updates will come along as things start to get going!

We did have a scare the other night, I was doing my normal thing around the house Sunday night, getting laundry done, just got done showering and was standing in the bathroom brushing my teeth when I all of a sudden got this really sharp pain in my right side to the point where it brought me to the floor, I yelled for Trev and had got myself up to the bed but couldn't even stand, it literally made me not be able to breath...Trev insisted that we head to the hospital in fear that my appendix had ruptured...we got to the hospital had a bunch of tests done, found out after 4 pokes trying to get an iv in me that I was really dehydrated, and have a UTI, they did an ultrasound on my gallbladder, ovaries, and appendix everything looked okay except they couldn't see the appendix; I asked the Dr if that was normal he said usually if they could see it, its inflamed. They didn't want to do a CT Scan because of the radiation and where we are having invitro it wouldn't be a good thing to do. So they sent us home and put us on a 24 hour watch wait...basically have to watch to see if my stomach reacts again...they gave me a shot in the hip for the infection to get that cleared up quick, sent me home with meds. I have felt okay just been really pukey but the pain has gone away thank goodness. I haven't experienced that bad of a pain for awhile probably since the last IUI I had! those were miserable! But other than that! things have been okay! just really tired around our house! between me getting used to meds and Trev working graves!

Here are some pictures of what has been going on in the Larsen home and what will be going on the next month and a half! here we go!! Trev and I are excited! Thanks for following along! more updates to come! XO!




 


Sunday, February 28, 2016

{Humble and Kind}

Yes those are the words I have thought about lately after Tim McGraw's new song has been coming on the radio...have you heard it? maybe take a minute to click the link above and listen to it while you read this blog of mine... I have thought a lot about life lately...basically thats what you do when you drive to work for 45 minutes and home for 45 minutes.

Life...what is life? why are we here doing day to day running around? trying to get to work, trying to make the world happy, trying to make yourself happy, trying to be a better person everyday, stressing about life, stressing about the future, or money, or living, how about kids, a family ya know the jiff I am getting right? if not you will...

In my last blog I posted I had posted about our invitro and the plans we have made as husband and wife, we decided to hold off during the holidays because you know how the holidays are...{stressful} I was stressed, I was emotional, I was angry, I was happy, then I was sad, then I was flat out boiling pissed off, I WAS ON HORMONES...What do hormones do to you? search and research people...they make a girl completly insane. Don't believe me? ask my many of friends that are going through invitro or that have done invitro we can all gang up on you and go against you so don't mess with us. {especially on meds! because you will get proven wrong} where am I going with this? I just want to talk about life...how hard life can get and how confusing it can be. Through all the hard times and the struggles {everyone goes through them} people need to remember to just always stay humble and kind to one another just like good ol' Tim sings in his song...this world is serisouly cruel at times and there are a lot of people in this world that are fighting a hard battle that we know nothing about...

I have learned in the last couple months how much I want to be better a better person, how much I want to be kinder, happier, live life to its fullest, I want to live life as if I did have a child and they could see me as a mom and want to grow up to be just like me...I want to be a wife, mother, and someday grandma and I want to be remembered as the fun Brittney that never let life get to her...that all the struggles that I have been through they have not bothered me...even though yes behind closed doors I have been a wreck, I have had melt downs to the point where I have screamed to Heavenly Father asking for answers and why he won't help me to understand things. I want to be a mom that shows my children respect, love, happiness, cleanliness, modesty, etc, and most importantly being kind always. Yes I have dreams of being a mom and one day, I hope soon that will happen and that I can one day soon share all the love I have been waiting to share to my kids.

{ "Be in the world, but not of the world" } we are all beautiful and incredible in our own ways! Let's remember to be kind, loving, and serving, and all good things will come to use in time! Be the example and the light, for the world needs more of it!

This is something I have realized each day lately, something I want to always do in life is
 "BE THE EXAMPLE AND THE LIGHT" for yes the world needs more of it!!

Life can be hard at times but trying to be something that your not just to fit in with others doesn't get you in the highest places, why not be yourself, being yourself is the most beautiful thing ever! realizing when you are not being honest with yourself and your heart can be hard to admit and realizing that you as a person need to be better and be what you really are and what you were taught and raised.

Where am I going with all this? I  think to myself when I was little to now and I think back how I used to dream of what kind of wife, mom and person I always wanted to be, I always looked up to the most amazing women in my life...My mom, Grandma Alder, and Grandma Vaughan if anyone knows these three you would know exactly what I am talking about. I always wanted to be a good wife, and a good mom, and the best cooker I could be just like those three ladies in my life, but most of all I wanted to be the most loving person, caring, and always thinking of others first, not myself, just like my mother, and grandmother's. I have always wanted to just be a good person someone who my children can look up to and want to be just like me, just like I looked up to my mother, and grandmother's. As a daily reminder I think to myself "Always Stay Humble and Kind" that being said in every sitiuation you are in, in this world try to always be better, be a better person, be someone that your kids will always want to look up to and be. I drove through a drive through the other day, the girl at the window seemed really upset, down, or something was going on...after shoving my drinks out the window to me and my food not saying anything to me I smiled and said "thank you, have a good rest of the day" she turned to me and smiled and said "thank you" the smallest things, or words might just help ones day be better if you just tried a little harder to be better and not always think of yourself or your needs. I know when Trev and I have children my biggest priority will be my children, there needs will be on the top of my list and I will do everything in my power to be the best I can be as a mom and wife.

Friends, I know this blog probably sounds all over the place, my mind is kind of all over the place lately, I have had a lot on my mind, I have been down and I have been up but in my heart I have always known who I am as a person, who I belong too, what I deserve, how to love, how to show kindness, and especially when I am not myself and I am on meds- I know who I am and I know when my body isn't right! or doesn't feel right!, and most of all, always just being myself!! Never trying to be someone I am not! I came from an amazing family with parents that have raised me to be the best I can be exactly how I want my kids to be raised "the best they can be! and always being thereselves not someone else to fit in" so thankful for my loving husband, and family! lets be better in the world and always be humble and kind! think of others first, and enjoy life to its fullest even in the struggles and hard times...there is always a way in life even when it gets rough!

Thanks for reading, sorry if this is all over the place!
Baby Larsen is on board and embryo transfer in May 2016!
 we are getting excited to meet this angel and get this baby into the world to love on!